For one human being to love one another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation... -Rainer Maria Rilke

Couples Therapy

Healthy, lasting relationships do not happen without intention and attention. When things inevitably become challenging in relationship, it can be incredibly helpful to have a therapist to witness, support and guide your process. It is my goal to provide a safe, relaxed and non-judgmental space for you as a couple to develop new habits and new ways of relating that provide a foundation for a happier life together. I am passionate about relationship work and feel it is an incredible opportunity for healing in our lives.

Most recently, I have been training in Stan Tatkin’s approach to couples work which is called PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy). In this approach, the goal is to help couples build secure functioning relationships based on the principles of fairness, mutuality, and security. As your relationship becomes more consciously built on these principles, couples move from blame and misinterpretation to collaboration and satisfaction. PACT is based on cutting edge research in developmental neuroscience, attachment theory, and affect regulation creating a highly effective form of couples therapy.

  In couples therapy, I take an active role in directing the process to help you learn to:

  • Identify patterns that are blocking intimacy and good communication
  • Build a collaborative, teamwork approach to solving your problems
  • Learn how childhood attachment patterns unconsciously affect your relationship
  • Develop a better sexual connection and deepen intimacy
  • Better manage reactivity and frustration
  • Increase actions that produce closeness rather than separation

 In my practice, I welcome couples of all genders, ethnicities, sexualities, and cultures. I am trans-affirming and trans-positive. I am LGBTQIA friendly and supportive. I also support couples to have more security while working on conscious non-monogamy and polyamory.